tell me again about the male loneliness epidemic? đ
for a long time I've thanked the gods that I'm not datingâand now it's even worseShe left a date after 2 minutes when she recognized this tactic men use to âhumbleâ women â here's what to watch out for
her date told her the plan for their evening was a âsurpriseâ and specifically described the dress code as âcomfortable.â So she dressed accordingly: sweatpants, sweatshirt, sneakers, hair in a bun, no jewelry.After they met up, she says, he tried to lead her straight into a fine dining restaurant. He was dressed appropriately for the venue, in a crisp white button-down shirt, looking like he had just had a fresh shave and haircut. She turned around and bailed immediately.
Why? Because her read of the situation right off the bat was that this wasn't a misunderstanding â it was an attempt to âlevel the playing fieldâ by embarrassing her on purpose.
Several people likened the move to scam emails that are obviously fake. The point isnât to convince everyone â itâs to quickly locate the people who will comply, second-guess themselves, and keep engaging. Basically, it's a filter.
What made the clip pop is the dater's refusal to do the emotional labor so many women have been trained to perform. She didn't even ask for an explanation. She just left, got herself fast food, and blocked him immediately. "You showed me who you were,â she says. âYou donât have to show me twice.â
Commenters cheered that energy not just as a clapback (although that too), but as a safety practice: Get out early, donât escalate, donât negotiate with someone whoâs already demonstrated a taste for control.
She left a date after 2 minutes when she recognized this tactic men use to âhumbleâ women â here's what to watch out for
It's not a mix-up, but a known dating power play, according to the internet.Alesandra Dubin (Yahoo)
