tell me again about the male loneliness epidemic? š
for a long time I've thanked the gods that I'm not datingāand now it's even worse
She left a date after 2 minutes when she recognized this tactic men use to āhumbleā women ā here's what to watch out for
her date told her the plan for their evening was a āsurpriseā and specifically described the dress code as ācomfortable.ā So she dressed accordingly: sweatpants, sweatshirt, sneakers, hair in a bun, no jewelry.After they met up, she says, he tried to lead her straight into a fine dining restaurant. He was dressed appropriately for the venue, in a crisp white button-down shirt, looking like he had just had a fresh shave and haircut. She turned around and bailed immediately.
Why? Because her read of the situation right off the bat was that this wasn't a misunderstanding ā it was an attempt to ālevel the playing fieldā by embarrassing her on purpose.
Several people likened the move to scam emails that are obviously fake. The point isnāt to convince everyone ā itās to quickly locate the people who will comply, second-guess themselves, and keep engaging. Basically, it's a filter.
What made the clip pop is the dater's refusal to do the emotional labor so many women have been trained to perform. She didn't even ask for an explanation. She just left, got herself fast food, and blocked him immediately. "You showed me who you were,ā she says. āYou donāt have to show me twice.ā
Commenters cheered that energy not just as a clapback (although that too), but as a safety practice: Get out early, donāt escalate, donāt negotiate with someone whoās already demonstrated a taste for control.
She left a date after 2 minutes when she recognized this tactic men use to āhumbleā women ā here's what to watch out for
It's not a mix-up, but a known dating power play, according to the internet.Alesandra Dubin (Yahoo)
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